They are very sensitive
to the needs of others. They make wonderful hosts
and hostesses and are extremely responsive to the
needs of others. They are attentive to their presentation
and can bring playfulness and excitement to any situation.
They become extremely
upset and over-react emotionally if their efforts
to make you happy are not effective. They equate attention
with love and often "lose" themselves in
relationships, ending up feeling hurt or rejected.
Enthusiastic Over-Reactor Personality Aspects
ENTHUSIASTIC / OVER-REACTORS learn early in life that
they get most of their strokes as children for being cute, delightful
and loving. They don't get credit for their thinking capacity
and consequently tend to discredit their capacity to think deeply,
clearly or productively. But keeping others happy is a behavior
that they can engage in without a great deal of thought and still
get the maximum number of strokes from others.
ENTHUSIASTIC / OVER-REACTORS tend to
mistake feelings for reality. They have rather shallow emotions
that they can deepen by thinking about their situation.
ENTHUSIASTIC / OVER-REACTORS need to learn that they
can stop and think about their situation, that feelings aren't
facts, and that they can get fully in touch with their anger (which
usually is squelched). They also need to learn that running
away from a situation doesn't serve them well and that they can
advocate for getting their own needs met (rather than just meeting
others' needs.) They need to know that they can be lovable
and competent.
ENTHUSIASTIC / OVER-REACTORS need for others to stroke
and encourage their independent and insightful thinking, and to
challenge any cons about their perceived marginal capacity to
think clearly.
ENTHUSIASTIC / OVER-REACTORS are at their best when they
recognize that keeping the whole world isn't possible and that
stopping and thinking clearly about their situation is much wiser
counsel.
